God definitely wants us to love and care for each other, after all, we are born into a family when we're born again.  Our lives belong (not to ourselves) to each other in service of one another. Yes, He gives elders,  - He wants us to recognize those among us who have attained maturity (regardless of age). These elders may have specific anointings and callings,  such as Apostle,  Prophet, Teacher, Evangelist or Pastor but they are not to lord it over others - they are simply there to make themselves available to the Body - who call upon them when they need them - listen - "Is any sick among you? LET HIM CALL FOR THE ELDERS OF THE CHURCH; AND LET THEM PRAY OVER HIM" See? We are to call upon leadership when we need - they do not call us to serve them. We are a Body if Believers - we organically minister to one another  - as God sees fit - HE organizes the Body - just as the Father prepared a body for Jesus to inhabit in Mary's womb, so is He doing now - in the womb of the Spirit.  He knits members together whom He wants to love and care for each other - in so doing, He is building His House - unless He does this, it's a house of vanity, of foolish pride, with flesh choosing who to exalt and who to abase, using criteria that is the opposite of God's selection process.  "EXCEPT THE LORD BUILD THE HOUSE, THEY LABOR IN VAIN THAT BUILD IT" - These things ought not to be, my brethren! We should never exalt a man over us. We should always exalt the Father,  the Son and the Holy Spirit over us. When Peter rebuked Ananias and Sapphira, it was the Holy Spirit using him to expose their duplicity to God - not men "THOU HAST NOT LIED UNTO MEN BUT UNTO GOD". Yes, Apostles walk in a heavier, more weighty anointing, along with Prophets, for the benefit of all - "GREAT FEAR CAME ON ALL THEM THAT HEARD THESE THINGS". Apostolic authority is given for the building up of the Body - not so a man, any man, may be exalted above his brethren, but so he may be a foundation stone Jesus can use to build His House upon - "THE HOUSEHOLD OF GOD IS BUILT UPON THE FOUNDATION OF THE APOSTLES AND PROPHETS".

Truthfully,  God can use anyone of us to instruct another - WE have the mind of Christ, not "I". 

God used to speak to me (wisdom) through my young children! They used to say the most profound things that I knew were directly from the heart of the Father through His Spirit - "OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF BABES AND SUCKLINGS" - Amen! God often used them to give me insights I couldn't have had otherwise.  Children have a unique outlook on life we'd do well to emulate, in some ways. 

Part two coming