Please do not tell someone who is in mourning to suck it up and rejoice with you -
We can rejoice in the Lord while we mourn this filthy world.
We can take solace and comfort in Him,
while at the same time grieve over sin.
We are to mourn with those who mourn,
not treat them with scorn.
Be sensitive to the burdens your brother is carrying.
Discern the fake smile from the real.
See those tears that are tarrying.
See the grief he's trying to conceal.
Sometimes a silent hug speaks louder than empty platitudes.
Let him know he doesn't need to pretend and he'll show you his gratitude.
There's a time to laugh, there's a time to cry.
There's a time for sunshine and darkened skies.
My brother, tears bring no shame to you,
for always remember, Jesus wept too.
He was a man of sorrows, well acquainted with grief.
Sometimes we join with Him and over sin we weep.
For often the salt of our tears
will help heal our wounds and our fears
and they will cleanse us and water our soul
and help to make us whole

So,
release them my dear precious sister or brother,
release them and let them go...