God doesn't put leadership in people's lives to be their "head" - He does it so they'll be their "tail" - their servants, beneath them, not above them. 

People are meant to be "led" by the Holy Spirit  - not I, or any man. Leadership is there to provide balance and wisdom to a young one's zeal, and zeal to an older one's apathy. We are to be a model, an example,  of how to be led by God - of how to follow God, not men, even godly ones. "Follow me as I follow Christ"  - our entire focus as leadership, our goal, is to teach people to follow and obey Christ  - not us! We can only do this if we ourselves are following and obeying Christ. 

Jesus hates the "doctrine of the Nicolaitanes" - He hates the concept of "clergy and laity" , of professional and amateur saints - we are all one Body, one Faith, one Holy Spirit,  one God and Father above all - we are supposed to be one - with Jesus Himself as our head, not men. "Be ye followers  of me, even (as long as) I also am (a follower) of Christ "  BUT I would have you know THE HEAD OF EVERY MAN IS CHRIST - Paul is saying  - look, though I (and God) want you to follow me (my example), I'm not your head, rather Christ whom I'm following is! So keep your attention and focus on Him. This way, I can't lead you astray. By following me, you're actually following Him but I must not replace Him in your life - I am here to point you to Him - to connect you with Him - so that you'll not need me - yes, remember me in prayer  - keep the doctrine I've delivered to you - for it came from Him - but do not idolize or exalt me above due measure  - neither dishonor me or disrespect me too - for the same reason  - I represent Christ to you, sent by Him to minister to and serve you.

Leadership,  then, are simply to be the mature guiding the immature to maturity.  Their hearts should be to see those they care for become greater than themselves in every way. "GREATER WORKS THAN THESE SHALL YOU DO" We want our (spiritual) children to have greater faith than we ourselves.  Greater works. More fruit. Let's put it this way - as leadership,  as spiritual father's and mother's in people's lives - we want lots of grandchildren! Having lots of sons and daughters in the faith is impressive but it's far more impressive to have lots of grandchildren in the faith. We want reproduce reproducers! "The same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also". 

Apostle Chris